Romancing Without Defiance

Maybe I, undeniably, am a peculiar person. I mean, how many people are passionately in love with their spouse after twenty years?

I, literally, cannot live with out Hubby. I’ve tried a few times. Each time I have ended up with emotional and physical problems. The emotional ones are easy to understand. A person gets use to having another person around, so when that other person is not there, there’s grieving and loneliness. Sometimes those emotions can get out of hand. There are drugs for things like this. The physical problems are what freak me out. I can’t sleep or eat. My body aches as if I have a cold. My hearing goes on the frits. I just know that someone is going to say it’s psychosomatic and I agree with you wholeheartedly. Admitting this doesn’t make the symptoms go away unfortunately.

My sister-in-law, Leanne (not her real name) thinks we’re dirty. . . filthy because Hubby and I express passion so much of the time. We aren’t obscene in any way. We are just publicly affectionate. I don’t see many couples who have been together twenty years or more behaving this way but we don’t see anything wrong with it. Both of us feel that many marriages would be better if the couples would behave more like we do.

When did people get to be so puritanical? I thought that type of behavior was done away with during the rebellion of the 1960s and early 1970s. You know, make love, not war. One of the main points of that era was to get some sensitivity back into the general character of human beings. Did society lose it again during the corporate years of the 1980s? Whatever has happened since the Viet Nam War has ended is disgusting.

My niece and her husband never even seem to exchange knowing looks. I see the husband trying to be more affectionate towards my niece but I see my niece brushing him off. Did she just marry him so that she wouldn’t have to work a fulltime job or live with her parents? It makes me sad when I look at these two because the husband so obviously loves her and she just does not seem to give a damn. Of course, my niece has not gotten a very good example from her parents. Although it seems to be fine to hug a parent, parents hugging each other in that household appear to be frowned upon. Leanne has gone so far as to ask Hubby and me to tune it down at their house. We don’t even feel that we can hold hands at their house now.

From what I have observed in everyday life, most of society is this way once again. Anything that was learned during the hippie era has been forgotten. Our world is in a bad state of affairs.